BUILDING SELF DISCIPLINE 2 (HOW DID WE HAVE IT)

Self discipline is the top secret of every successful man. In my last post I explained the types of self discipline (proactive, active and reactive). I also highlighted the benefits that you will enjoy when you have self discipline (which includes success, overcoming difficulties and building better relationships). 

In this post we are going to be exploring how we can get self discipline, how we can enjoy that benefits listed in our last post. 

As I said before every successful man must have self discipline because that is one of the secret that builds them up to be successful, every successful marriage or relationship is essential to have started with the self-discipline, overcoming difficulties is also been made easier by self discipline. That was a highlight  of my last post, to get the full detailed information, you can simply click the link below. 

BUILDING SELF DISCIPLINE 1(WHY DID WE NEED IT)

Now let's get into the action for this post.

Figure Out Where You Struggle

The first step of getting self discipline is by figuring out where exactly you struggle, identify specifically where you are not disciplined or where you need to be disciplined. For instance, if you are a lazy reader, what I mean is if you are not disciplined learning on your own or if you’re not discipline reading your books. Then that is the area you have to put your focus on, be as clearly specific as possible. Understand very well that this is the place you need to be disciplined on and once you figured out these areas, then you are ready for the next step. This is only an example you may have various reasons and various places you need to be disciplined on, it is only left for you to make it very clear that here I need to be disciplined, I need to be disciplined on this so that I can reach my potential, or I need to be disciplined on this so that I can be a successful man, or I need to be disciplined so that this relationship will last longer than expected, etc.

Whatever area that you need to be disciplined on, I need you to get clearly specific on it because it will help you to master the next step. Now without wasting much of our time let's get to the next step.

Find Out What Makes You Struggle In That Area.

Finding out what makes you struggle in that area will help you to fix or to discipline yourself on that particular area and trust me, if you find out what makes you struggle in that area it will help you so much to build self-discipline. I want you to be clear and to think accurately on what exactly makes you struggle in that area. The choice of words I use here may not be compatible with you, for example “Struggle”, it may not exactly be “struggling” in your own concept but you know exactly what you want, just follow the method, that's all you need and you will achieve what is needed to build self discipline.

Using my previous example, maybe it is because of the video game or social media or the TV that distracts you from studying your books. Now that is the reason you are struggling at the area of reading your books. 

If you can list out all the things that makes you not to be disciplined to achieve what you wanted to achieve, then you are half way to building self discipline.

Cut Them Off, Little By Little

This is the step that people mostly failed, because most people just stop all those distractions immediately, thinking that their determination will pay them off. But the reality is, about 95% of those people start paying attention to those distractions that they determined not to pay attention to after a day or probably a week.

There is a reason why I’m advising you to cut it off little by little because if you rush out immediately because of the motivated spirit you have at that moment, you will rush back in when the motivated feeling is gone. But if you build the motivated feeling yourself, it will make you stay more disciplined on it. 

First start stopping your less occupied distractions and as you master to be without the less distractions, you will start to see the greater ones less automatically. 

Steady Practices Makes Perfection

The essential part of this post is here, whatever ways you try to build discipline, I always advise people to take it slowly and steady because practice makes perfection. The more you practice building discipline the more easier it becomes for you to take total control of yourself.

In conclusion, by clear understanding of where you struggle or where you need to be disciplined on, figuring out what makes you struggle in that area, not rushing out but cutting off the distractions little by little slowly and steady, works like an automated robot to build discipline in you.

This post took longer than expected to publish it and I’m really sorry for it, apologies from your friend (me, Josh). And please don’t keep all these grand informations that I share here only to yourself, but kindly share it, for the sake of those that need it and us as well because together we rise to a greater height.

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